I recently read an article on the BBC’s International News website – Self Help Makes You Feel Worse. The article cited new Canadian university research and stated that people with “low self-esteem actually felt worse” as a result of what the article’s author obviously considered to be practicing self-help. The article went on to explain that the University of New Brunswick and the University of Waterloo had measured research participants’ moods after they had repeated “I am a lovable person”. The researchers’ conclusion was that “self-help” only works for people with high self-esteem and, in fact, makes people with low self-esteem feel worse.
The problem is that repeating “I am a lovable person” to yourself – when the facts of your daily life suggest otherwise – is not self-help, it’s self-delusion. It’s just like the magical illusion where the magician saws his beautiful assistant in two – we all see it happen but we know in our heart and soul that the theatre isn’t littered with bloodied body parts!! The researchers in question appear to me to have been a little naive.
If you don’t believe your own self-worth in your heart and soul, no amount of trite self-affirmation will fix you up. Of course you’ll feel worse for the experience because you’d tried to convince yourself that you were a “lovable person” (or whatever other nonsense you might repeat to yourself) and not only have you proved that such nonsense doesn’t work – you’ve proved yourself right, all over again, that you’re not, in fact, a “lovable person”!
So, self-affirmation is next to useless – but it’s got very little to do with true self-help that can, to quote from Nelson Mandela, “liberate us from our own fears” and enable us “shine our light” for all the world to see. First things first – as I’ve just said, self-affirmation is just smoke and mirrors that make no difference to the quality of your life, your self-image, your success or happiness. Why? Because self-affirmation is addressed to the conscious mind – the part of our mind where we do our thinking. But it’s our subconscious mind where we do our doing. Seventy years research proves conclusively that your subconscious mind creates your behaviour and reactions and, as a result, creates your life and who you think you are. It’s in your subconscious mind that you hold your beliefs – in your heart and soul, so to speak.
So, if you don’t believe, in your heart and soul, that you’re a “lovable person”, no amount of self-talk will convince you otherwise. You need to get to the very heart of the matter – in your subconscious mind. Before we explore how to do that, it’s important to understand that your current limiting self beliefs are there because, as young and impressionable children, things were impressed on our subconscious mind. If something happened us in our formative years that made us feel uncomfortable or inadequate, our subconscious mind’s replaying of that event continues to make us feel that same way many years later.
You need to by-pass your subconscious mind’s proven obsession with the past. And, when you stop to think about it, the solution to your perceived problems is absolutely and obviously found in the present. You simply need to re-learn how to focus in the here and now. I say “re-train” because, as children, we were all expert at paying attention to the present moment – we didn’t worry about next month’s mortgage, whether we’d get that promotion or why our neighbour had a bigger car than ours – we simply went about our business in the here and now.
If you want to improve your life, your “self-esteem”, your happiness, your success, you need to become like a child all over again – childlike, not childish. You need to train your subconscious mind to focus in the present moment – the more you do this, the less your subconscious mind can focus in the past. Your past “programs” won’t go away but as you give them less and less energy, they will hold less and less power over you and your life will begin to change.
You retrain your mind to focus in the present by using your five senses – by training yourself to pay detailed attention to what you see, feel, hear, smell and taste only in the present moment. For starters, this should be done in the privacy of your own home – otherwise normal people will think you’re mad (by the way, all the evidence points to the fact that it’s the normal people who are, in fact, mad). Or you could deliberately choose to go for a stroll to practice using your five senses. If you like working out or jogging, you could use these activities as an opportunity to pay full attention to what you’re feeling in your body, in the muscles and muscle groups that you’re using – it means you’ll have to unplug the iPod!!
Little by little, day by day, we can all recreate our lives through bringing our attention into the only place and time that we have – the here and now. Little by little we will realise low self-esteem for what it is – another illusion, this time created by subconscious snapshots we took of events long gone. Little by little anybody – and that includes you – can create the life, happiness, success, relationships that your heart desires. But it’s something that’s done little by little – every day – and the little by little will give rise to startling results.
Willie Horton was born and educated in Dublin, Ireland. An ex-accountant and ex-senior banker, he has worked in the area of personal development since 1996, enabling business leaders, sports people and ordinary people understand how state of mind creates success (or failure). They describe the results as ‘unbelievable’ and ‘life-changing’. Willie and his family now live in the French Alps. His vast expertise is now available in his Online Workshop at Gurdy.Net. His website also offers daily free personal development video seminars, articles and a free Video Ezine published every Monday morning. For more information, visit http://www.gurdy.net
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If you are having many panic attacks and feel you need help to recover there are treatment options available. Which option you choose will depend on your circumstances. You should consider how much money you are willing to spend, whether or not you want others involved, and how severe your anxiety is.
One option is to see your doctor. If you go this route, most likely you will consider using medications to help reduce your anxiety. This is the path I took when I first started having panic attacks. However, most medications I took did not work for me. In addition there were unpleasant side effects and I started to develop a dependency. I felt I needed medicine just to get through a normal day. When I finally stopped taking medications for anxiety I still suffered from chronic panic attacks. So, for myself medication was not the solution. It simply masked anxiety and doped me up. However, what didn’t work for me may work for you. Talk it over with your doctor if you feel medication is the right choice.
Another option which is natural and medicine free is to use a self-help course available online. I feel this is one of the best options because these programs aim to cure panic attacks. They provide methods and techniques that you can use to prevent anxiety from getting out of hand. By changing the way you think and altering the triggers that cause panic attacks you will in effect cure your anxiety attacks. Of course, everyone has anxiety so there is no cure per say. But, you can manage your anxiety down to normal levels.
The only way to stop anxiety attacks for good is to remove the fear that is causing it. I found it to be a mistake to avoid anxious situations as this only adds to the problem. You will need courage to face situations that cause anxiety to overcome it, but getting help for panic attacks is essential. Otherwise you may repeat the same pattern over and over again. The most important thing to remember is that you can manage your anxiety and live each day without experiencing chronic panic attacks. Help is available.
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Indram Vardhanto Apturah
May we enhance our strength and progress!
One phrase denotes the most fundamental principle of Vedic philosophy – Life means growth. So far we are growing, we are working in sync with life forces. The moment we cease to grow, we are in hands of forces of death. Now this principle coupled with the first principle implies that bliss can be maximized by maximizing our growth. The moment we limit our knowledge or understanding of truth, we limit our level of bliss. We abandon the opportunity for further bliss. We enjoy illusion and ignorance, because we consider them as truth, and hence acquire limited bliss from them. But if we have to increase our bliss further, we need to enhance our knowledge further, break the shackles of illusion and ignorance, and extract more bliss. This is an ongoing journey in life, and the only natural way to live – healthy and blissfully.
The moment we stagnate, the moment we stop this process of knowledge enhancement, or try to put limits to it, or try to reverse it, we are working against our basic nature. To put metaphorically, we are digging our own graves. In pursuit of momentary bliss, we are forcing ourselves into the dark pit of frustration, tension, sorrow and grief. It is impossible to restrict the nature. So this urge for growth channelizes into all sorts of areas – some very undesirable, some less undesirable and some simply self-defeating. Thus we see so much of terrorism, warfare, drugs abuse, pornography, wasteful living, addictions, psychopathy all around. These are nothing but manifestations of attempts made by soul to cope up with this force to nature that demands us to grow, progress and come closer to truth.
An average soul spends bulk of its life tackling this urge for growth, without understanding the source of problem, and keeps fighting throughout the life in a variety of forms. Sometimes it will drown itself into various variants of ignorance and bliss, sometimes it will try to express itself through regressive means, sometimes it will indulge into sensual pleasures that numb the senses, sometimes it will tend to progress further and then again reverse the direction due to other compulsions. And finally when mortal death takes over, the story is over.
Normally, we tend to believe that phase of growth ends with completion of our physiological growth (growth of body). It is approximately then that our education also ends. And we continue living in illusion that phase of growth is over. However, if you have studied a bit about the human brain, you would realize that it is the most complex system known to us in the entire universe. We hardly know anything about human brain and how it works. But from whatever we know, the potential of human brain to learn, acquire skills, and gain knowledge is virtually limitless. And we also know that brain is like other muscles. The more you use it, stronger it becomes. Stop using it, and you are leading yourself towards dementia. This provides the greatest clue towards purpose of our life..or direction of our life – to grow further, know further and reach closer to truth.
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Self help ebooks can be found anywhere you turn on the internet. Many people do not have the patience to research their problems, instead by the first product offered to them in order to improve their life and/or improve their problems. Many people face the problem of an unhealthy relationship. An unhealthy relationship can be detrimental to your brain, cause you not to think, your ideas fail, and all your money go down the drain. It is very important to maintain a healthy relationship and if you are currently in an unhealthy relationship, you and your partner need to change right away! Stress self-help is a great way of solving stress problems in your relationship. Many relationships face stumbling blocks and trying to solve many disagreements.
To be successful in the anxiety self-help industry, you must develop ground rules for solving relationship arguments. Disagreements happen frequently in relationships, it is just a fact of life. No two people are perfect, and sometimes fighting is healthy, but not fighting daily. Below are some tips to help build your relationship stronger.
1. Sit down and discuss each person’s behavior. What sets both of you off? Find your problems and solve them. There are many exercises to help build your relationship and this is one of them.
2. Tell each other you love them. Share all your feelings and what is on your mind. Be completely honest with your significant other. Instead of attacking each other and jumping down each others throat, try saying you love them and care for them. It works!!! Trust me!
3. Put the past behind. Focus on the present and leave out the past. Bringing up the past only causes more problems. I am sure you have heard the saying 2 wrongs don’t make a right. Well that saying is completely true. 2 wrongs definitely don’t make a right and if your partner is in the wrong try being in the right.
These 3 factors can help you establish a healthy relationship and build your mind power instantly. You will be able to think clearly, develop new ideas, and live a healthier life just by building your relationship into a healthy one. Never jump to conclusions when in a relationship and don’t accuse your partner until you know the hard facts. Sometimes you may think your partner is lying through their teeth, but come to find out they are actually telling the truth. Try giving your partner the benefit if the doubt. It works trust me!
There are many free self-help ebooks out there, the problem is finding the right one that will guide you in the right direction based on the problems you are facing. Any problem you need to overcome can be found on the internet. Having patience and learning every self-improvement technique will greatly increase your chances of improving your brain power. You must find techniques to clear your head and enable you to think more clearly. I wish you the best of luck down your path to success!
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